Thursday, December 31, 2009

True Colors

I told you guys that M's not always as nice as he was in that one letter. Lol. Here's our latest Facebook drama.

M: Subject: Did what I could
50 dollars moneygram walmart


Me: 
I appreciate the effort. 

Just so we're both clear, tomorrow on January 1st you are $950 behind on child support. The $200 you never sent in October/November, $400 for December, and $400 for January, minus the $50 you sent today.


M:
And as I said I will be behind but only $750 thanks


Me:
You are $950 behind, unless you can produce proof that you sent the full $400 for each month we have been separated. Recovery services will not accept car repairs as child support. Sorry about that.


M: 
well I guess we will see what the court has to say. As for filling our taxes. If you do not want to file jointly then you can expect that you wont get child support for a while. I am sorry but thats the way it is. I am trying to get this all taken care of including filing bankruptcy together. But if it is going to be like this then I will just File for divorce first then do my own bankruptcy. The choice is yours. I can have the funds deposited into the wachovia account. I would be willing to sign a document about the agreement on how to spend funds but again this is your choice. Please let me know asap.


Me:
You're failing to be effective at 'trying to file bankruptcy together.' All you're doing is continually telling me to call local attorneys, without specifying what information you need me to get, and refusing to do it yourself. Please be more specific on the steps that need to be taken in that respect.

The Wachovia account, unless you remove yourself from it, is not sufficient. Forgive me, but you have not been altogether reliable when it comes to financial matters since we have been separated. I cannot take the risk of going to collect the funds and there being insufficient funds in the account, as has happened in the past. I'm sure you understand. What type of document do you suggest? I'm honestly not sure how much protection that would give. Please be more specific.

On another note, if you can afford to retain an attorney for a divorce, you can surely afford child support. Just a thought.



M:
I cannot afford one untill a) I get taxes. Or b) I get my bonus. So I need to know what you want to do. I am sorry but I don't trust you alone with money either. I almost got evicted because you took money without telling me from the account don't you remember. I want you to call local attorneys and find out costs to file for bankruptcy. I did not realize that was that hard to do. I work 50+ hours a week while you sit around so please call and find out prices. Thanks








I have not replied to that last message. I'm sort of speechless. If you'll look a couple of posts back, he told me he almost got evicted because I called his store and told them he was dating an employee. Now, it's because I took the amount of child support out of the bank account that he owed me. (Back story: I was supposed to take out $200 biweekly = $400/mo from joint account. Went to get money the second time we did this, and there were insufficient funds. Was only able to get $40.  Next pay period, I took out $200 + the $160 from last pay period = $360. That was when he got mad and shut off my phone.) So I'm really not sure which it is. Also, he did shut off my phone. And my mom's house phone is really currently out of service. So in all actuality, it really is difficult to call attorneys without a phone. Just saying. And yes, I "sit around" taking care of my son by myself. Next semester I'll be in school, studying, and being a single mom. I'd be in school now, but he left me in October.. I couldn't get into school that semester. Sheesh. 


I don't know why I'm letting myself be bugged by this. I really shouldn't. Hopefully now that I've blogged it out, I can enjoy the rest of the evening with my little prince. :)

5 comments:

  1. Dirtbag..... with really bad grammar. And, if he can't afford the child support, I suggest he work more than 5 hours a week...I'm just sayin'!

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  2. What a jerk! I'm so sorry you are going through all this :(

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  3. That is just beyond low! I'm so sorry you have to deal with this bullshit
    from him! It is CHILD support, money to support his child, which should be the important thing.

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  4. @zealandsmom - Lol I love that.. dirtbag with bad grammar. He totally is. One of my biggest pet peeves about him was that he is one of those people that says "supposABLY" instead of "supposEDLY" - drove me nuts!! lol

    @Sally @haven - Thanks so much for the support. I have no idea why he's being like this. He was never a jerk like this when we were married.. he was a really good actor, apparently.

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  5. Thanks for taking the time to share this.

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