Monday, October 26, 2009

My Story - M

So I know you want the scoop. No worries, you know I'll dish.

M and I were highschool sweethearts. Sort of. We dated, and then he broke up with me when he went into the military. He was 18, I was 15, so I still had more high school.

The next summer I had a ballet intensive in Chicago. Lo and behold!! M is stationed in Chicago. Saw him up there. It was magical.

We lost contact. I heard he had gotten married. Called his parents, found out it was true. I was 16. He was 19.

Fast forward. I'm on an internship in Florida for school, and he MySpaces me. I freaked. I was totally still in love with him. He was getting divorced. We got back together. I was 19. He was 22.

A year later we eloped in Vegas.

Wait, wait, back the truck up. We lived together for a year, I found out he had been cheating on me with my sister. For 9 months out of that year.

We still eloped in Vegas. What can I say. I was stupid.

M wants to have kids. I say no, not until I finish school. He says please. I say fine. A miscarriage, a preemie girl who grew angel wings and a total of 12 weeks in the hospital later, we had our baby boy. I was 22. He was 25.

We brought him home. M wanted nothing to do with him. I had no help. Two weeks after we brought him home from NICU I find out M has been having an affair during our 12 week hospital ordeal (Me on bed rest 6 weeks, E in NICU 6 weeks). I find out on MySpace, ironically.

I tell him I'm leaving. A few hours later, I tell him I want to work it out. For our son. He says no. He looks up flights for me. I pick one on Wednesday. He says, actually how about Tuesday. I say okay. I ask him if we can work it out on two more occasions before I left. He said no both times. So I left.

I now live with my mom, my step dad, my little brother, and my son in a 3 bedroom condo. It's nuts, but I'm so lucky to have them.

As of now, the divorce hasn't been filed. I have to wait to be a resident in this state for 3 months. That can't come soon enough.

I'm ready to move on.


  1. Wow, what a story. Wishing you and your baby all the best for 2010!! Can only get better, right? Hang in there!

  2. Wow. That was an incredible story. I'm so, so sorry for all you've gone through. Thank you for sharing your story and being willing to help others who have preemies in the NICU. Praying for you.

  3. Just caught up on your story - I'm a single mom of twin girls and will totally be following you now :)

  4. I think you made the right choice for you and for your baby. It's going to work out and major kudos to you for the strength you have. I'm totally in awe of you!

  5. that is a super sad story. I don't really understand people who cheat. wtf?

  6. Yeah well he looks every inch the douche that he is. I hope you find someone who really deserves you and E.

  7. This makes me very teary to know you went through all of this. You are too kind hearted to have to deal with someone like that. I cant believe it! I wish you lived closer to me so I could give you a big fat hug!